What Does Self-Love Really Mean?

There is so much noise in the media right now about self-love and what it means. The truth is that self-love is open to interpretation and has many different meanings to different people. To some, it is about loving your body or practicing good self-care, and to others, it is about taking time for yourself, however, to me it is all of these things and more. 

I'm not a therapist, I'm not a nutritionist, I'm not a mental health expert, I'm not a personal trainer, I'm not a psychologist and I'm not a yogi -- so what makes me qualified to talk about self-love? That fact that I have lived with and without it and I know the power of changing your attitude and changing your lifestyle.

For a large part of my life self-love was not a concept that I was familiar with at all. As someone who grew up with a lot of self-esteem and body issues I was full of negativity and self hate speech. As a consequence of this, my confidence took a major beating to the point where it was pretty much nonexistent. I didn't believe in myself and constantly put myself down. I never realized the terrible impact that this had on my happiness and ability to enjoy life to its fullest potential until I was an adult and embarked on my own self-love journey.

What began as a seed that was planted when I started modeling has blossomed into a whole new outlook on life. When I was scouted to be a plus model I didn't know a lot about the industry or anything about modeling in general. As I started to look into it I found a community of amazing, confident, sexy women of all different shapes and sizes with curves and squishy bellies that looked like me and were actually happy about it. They weren't trying to fit into a specific mold that said only one size is beautiful, they were breaking it! When I saw this I became inspired to try and look at myself differently, to try and appreciate what I have instead of focusing so hard on trying to change it.  

It may sound like it was easy but the truth is that it wasn't. Self-love is not a switch that can be turned on and off; it takes time. It is so much more than looking in the mirror and deciding to love yourself and going on with your day. Self-love is about taking care of yourself from the inside out- nourishing your mind spiritually as well as your body physically. It is about your mental health and taking time to do things that are important to you and that will help you grow. When we take time for ourselves, put ourselves first and make choices that we are proud of it becomes so much easier to fall in love with yourself. 

Once I realized that self-love is about actions and choices I started understanding how I could change my lifestyle for the better. Self-love is a living thing inside of us, it needs to be fed and watered so that it can grow with us. Today I try to be mindful of what I think, feel, want and need, it is not always easy but I am committed to putting myself first. The relationships we have with ourselves are the longest relationships any of us will ever have -- let's make it a good one! #selfloveistruelove #selfloveisnotselfish #MeFirst

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